Oh yeah, I said it, “etiquette schmetiquette.” I’m working on the invitation phase of the wedding right now and had to take a break. There are just too many darn “rules” to follow.
Check out some of these “rules/guidelines” I found (feel free to skim over, I did the first couple times):
*Punctuation Punctuation is not used at the ends of lines (commas, periods, colons, etc.); However, commas are used within lines to separate the day from the date, the city from the state and a man’s surname from “Jr./junior/II/III”, etc.
*Writing The Time• Since the abbreviations “a.m.” and “p.m.” should not be used, the phrases “in the morning” or “in the evening” should be used (if it’s likely there would be confusion).• The proper reference to a half hour is “half after,” not “half past.” So 7:30 would be written as “ half after seven o’clock”.• Quarter hours are not typically used on a wedding invitation.• Traditionally, times between 12 noon and 5:30 pm are considered the afternoon. 6:00 pm or later is considered the evening.
*Writing The Date When writing the date, all days and numbers should be spelled out. The day is written first, then the date and month. The year is written on the following line. Example:Saturday the fourth of Septembertwo thousand and ten
When writing the year, the tradition is to use the British wording (example: two thousand and ten) but it is also acceptable to use the American wording (two thousand ten).
*CapitalizationOnly those words that would normally be capitalized (proper nouns) should be capitalized on the invitation (for example, couple’s names, church name, etc).exception to the rule: The beginning of a new sentence or thought: e.g. “T” in “The favour of a reply is requested” or “Reception to follow”
*Mentioning GiftsIt is considered extremely socially incorrect to make any mention of gifts on invitations or in any part of your invitation suite, based on the theory that we should expect nothing from our friends except their presence. Never list where you are registered, the name of a charity for donations or your desire for money rather than presents.
It is best to share this information word of mouth via family members or members of the bridal party.
I mean, WHOA! So basically I have to throw out all of my grammar knowledge and consult with a guide to help me write this thing out? Ack! Not to mention that since I write for a living I want these to be fantastic and error free, whatever that means in the language of invitations.
And then there’s the whole dilemma over making people happy. When I started working on invites I picked out a few invitation/rsvp wording versions that were somewhat formal and traditional. For some people this may be fine, but it just wasn’t doing it for me, but the more I looked for something I liked the more I got overwhelmed with how many invitation verses were out there.
Right before I decided to write this post I was debating whether or not to include a one-line sentence on a separate insert within our invitation about where we are registering. (I know some of you may be shaking your heads right now…) This is where I start laughing, because I highly doubt that anyone besides my immediate family (if that) will even remember our invitations after they receive them. I certainly hope that won’t be the case (obviously since Kenny and I are going to put a lot of time into making them), but honestly, I don’t remember a single wedding invitation I’ve received even since I’ve been engaged. So will anyone actually remember if we make the faux pas of including our registry info? I highly doubt it.
*About to get off my ranting soap box soon, I promise*
I finally found an invitation verse that I like and not only that, but Kenny said he liked it, too. (Now if he was just telling me he liked it because he’s seen about 10 different versions, and didn’t want to see another one, I don’t care – he said he liked it!)
I also think I found a response card wording I like as well, so the next step is to go over it a few more times and make sure I didn’t make any glaring spelling mistakes. On a happy note, I think I may have even come up with a way to get around the whole registry fiasco, but you’ll have to wait till our invites are out and in the hot little hands of our guests before I reveal our plan.
Thanks for letting me get my etiquette schmetiquette rant off my chest. Did anyone else put this much thought and energy towards the words on your invitation?
AND! As a side note, this is my 500th post 🙂