It seems that getting pregnant is a trend for me now. It’s at the point where I get the “Are you CRAZY?” look from random people when they find out I’m pregnant with two kids already at home. On the plus side, I know what to expect…for the most part. There are a few things already throwing me for a loop—I don’t, for example, remember ever breaking out this bad with my other two, so that’s been a fun development. But for the most part, I know the different stages of pregnancy and what’s to come.
It turns out that there are several things I do almost immediately after I find out I’m pregnant. Of course, topping my list includes telling my husband, and I start popping my prenatal vitamins if I haven’t started already. But if this is your first time being pregnant, and you’re feeling a little lost right now, hopefully this will help ease your mind a little bit.
Find a Doctor
This can be SO hard if you’re new in town and don’t want people to know you’re pregnant yet. Secretly shop around for an OB by getting on some local Facebook groups and searching for “ob/gyn.” Read what people have to say, then research the doctors/midwives mentioned. You can also check out your local city magazine. Every year most cities put out a “Best of” or a “Top Docs” edition where the readers all vote on their favorite in every category, including best OB/GYN doctor. If you have trusted friends, you can also ask them—if there’s one thing other moms like to talk about, it’s pretty much anything pregnancy/baby related.
Get an App
There are dozens (probably more) apps out there, but the one I’ve stuck with over the years is Ovia Pregnancy. And I’ve gotta tell you, it’s even improved since the last time I was pregnant! This app gives you an informative update on the baby every day, and you can get an email with even more info, then they send out a weekly email with even more info. I still like discovering what each new day brings to this little one. It also has a food safety lookup, symptom lookup, and medication safety lookup. Of course, you should always talk to your doc, but if you need to know something quickly, it’s all right there.
Ovia also has a calendar, a place for notes (great for jotting down questions to ask your doc), and it tells you the size of the baby not just by fruits and veggies, but you can pick other themes like French bakery items, fun and games, and weird-but-cute animals. Fun, right?! By the way, right now this babe is the size of a Haas avocado, an iPhone, and/or an eclaire. YUM!
Invest in Maternity pants.
Listen, don’t fight this one. Don’t try to be one of those people who will squeeze into your favorite pair of jeans until you literally can’t breathe. Yeah, the hair-tie-around-the-button trick will work, but only for so long. Just trust me and embrace the big ol’ wonderful elastic fabric enveloping your belly, because they’re the best, most comfortable things you’ll ever wear.
In fact, they’re so fantastic, that you won’t even get judged by other moms when you pull them out for Thanksgiving dinner in years to come. Don’t forget to pick up some maternity leggings while you’re at it.
If the thought of how much they are is freaking you out, I’ve bought mine from thredUP*, Goodwill ($2 for a pair of great condition jeans? YES, please), Old Navy (they’ve last through 2 pregnancies so far, and hello sales!), and Kohl’s.
*If you’re new to thredUP, click this link, sign up, and you’ll get $10 to spend. Fair warning…that site is addicting. It’s like Goodwill online with fantastic deals.
Buy Maternity Panties.
Yes, I’m serious. Maternity panties were a HUGE game changer the first time around. When you get pregnant, things…change. Parts start moving, things start widening, and before you know it, things like your reliable underwear are cutting into you, and making your life miserable. Maternity panties, on the other hand, fit like a baby-growing glove. Don’t worry. These aren’t like maternity pants—a few weeks after you pop that baby out, you’ll be ready to slip back into your old undies.
The next time you’re at a store, since we’re on the topic of our nether regions, pick up a pack of “pee pads.” You’ll thank me in a few months.
Figure Out the Food Situation
The annoying thing, at least with me, is that during the first trimester my “morning sickness” means feeling sick all day. And the only way to make myself not feel sick, is to eat (which is the absolute one thing I don’t want to do when I feel like throwing up, but it works). Maybe you’ll be one of the lucky ones who doesn’t get morning sickness, but in case you aren’t, here’s a list of foods I always have on hand during the first trimester:
I crave the tart juice like crazy, and squeeze it on edamame, broccoli, and green beans. (Honestly, that’s sometimes the only way I can eat veggies in my first trimester. Douse them in lemon juice, and I’m good to go!)
Bagels and cream cheese.
I try really hard to stay away from carbs…except when I’m pregnant. It’s sometimes the only thing that makes me not feel like puking. During the first trimester I’d have one or half of one almost immediately after I woke up.
Quinoa Energy Balls.
I make a batch of these and keep them in the fridge. Every night I’d take a couple and leave them on my nightstand, that way if I woke up in the middle of the night nauseous, or didn’t think I’d make it in the morning, I’d eat one.
BONUS: Once you have the baby and are nursing, those are excellent for keeping up your supply and 2am snacks.
Whether it’s sucking on an Altoid, a peppermint candy, or making some tea, peppermint helps calm the stomach. I would be lost without my Altoids—they’re great for emergency I-feel-like-crap moments
Ice cream. Because if you can’t have wine, you’re going to need something at night after a long day.
Sometimes at the end of the night this is the one and only thing that sounds good. (Well, that and spaghetti and meat sauce with maple syrup drizzled over it. My husband was thankful we didn’t have any pasta around when that craving came on. Cereal was the next best thing.)
Sign up for Alpha Mom
I didn’t hear about Alpha Mom until the tail end of my first pregnancy, and I was sad for about a week, because of all the great laughs I missed. Alpha Mom is a weekly email you can subscribe to that tells it exactly how it is for the exact week you are pregnant. AM gets it; she puts it out there, and you instantly feel like she’s your new BFF. And if you’re just now hearing about AM, and bummed you missed out, no worries. Click here and go back and read the ones you’ve missed! It looks like she has an entire site with other info, but to be honest, I’ve only checked out her calendar.
Start Some SECRET Pinterest Boards
Unless you want to let the cat out of the bag this early, make yourself a secret Pinterest board, and start going to town with all things baby. Pinterest just started when I was pregnant with my first, and I loved having a place to pin all of my ideas or any good information I came across online.
Do/did you do anything just after finding out you’re pregnant? Share your “firsts” in the comments!