One Day at a Time

We’re all girls here, right? Well, except for my husband who reads this when he can. So you know what I mean when I say we can be extremely crabby, pissy, easily annoyed, and overly emotional when it’s that time of the month. And unfortunately, it’s usually whoever is near us the most that gets the brunt of the bitchiness….like my dog. Yeah, you read that right. My cute and innocent puppy made me cry tonight* after a very long and tiring day. 

You know how they say when your husband leaves for a deployment everything that can go wrong will? So far the only thing that “went wrong” was a nail got stuck in my tire, but that was easily fixed. 

Today, however, I took my dog to the vet, because she was scratching everywhere and shaking her head like crazy, oh, and in the past couple days I started a possibility of fleas in our house.** The vet diagnosed her with an ear infection, allergies—who knew that dogs could be allergic to the environment?—and fleas. 

I understand fleas aren’t the end of the world and they’re a common problem that can be easily treated, but damn does it suck (and just for the record, she is already on a heartworm preventative and I started her on flea and tick prevention, as well!). I currently have a call out to an exterminator to come spray both inside and outside the house and I spent the entire day doing laundry—using the “sanitary” function on my washer to clean my comforter, sheets, towels, and clothes. I also made a trip to PetsMart to get some flea cleaner for the home, a drive over to Walgreens to get Benadryl for her allergies, and then spend some time in line at the post office to mail some letters and a package. And that was all before 3 pm.

Just before dinner, I met a friend of mine at Hobby Lobby and we decided to do dinner at her place. I got to her house, ate, chatted for a bit, and then set out on my merry way. Only I didn’t get very far, because I managed to lock my keys in my car. G-R-E-A-T. Luckily, USAA came to my rescue with their Roadside Assistance and opened the door in a jiffy.

So I finally get home and want to continue cleaning as much as I can, so I vacuum the entire house, take out the trash since tomorrow is trash day, and tried to give Bella her topical ear medicine, which is something she did not enjoy at all. 

After all that I was completely exhausted, hot, sweaty, and smelled like trash, so I went to take a shower to relax and clean myself up. When I left to shower Bella was in her crate. When I got out of the shower Bella was laying on my side of the bed on top of the comforter that I just spent more than three hours cleaning (that sanitary function does not kid around).

I start calling her name—nice at first—to get off the bed. Her response was to just stare at me…to mock me. I call her name again and this time she starts SLIDING over to the other side. The next time I don’t kid around; I yelled her name and she slowly got off the bed and walked, head down, to her crate. We had both sufficiently annoyed each other.

And that’s when I cried. Not a long, drawn out cry, but more of a this-really-sucks-and-I-wish-I-wasn’t-alone-but-I-will-get-through-this cry. All day long I held it together and figured out what to do without freaking out and losing my cool, but you can only hold on for so long. I think people on the outside see military wives as these super-women who have it all together and never break down, but I definitely don’t think that’s true. I think we all break down “when the going gets tough” and that’s what helps build us back up.

I know my situation(s) today wasn’t cosmic, and military wives have had to go through so much worse, but it was hard for me. It was the first time I had to take care of another life only to have her get on my very last nerve. It was the first time (crap, now I’m crying again) I didn’t call my mom or dad first to ask what I should do. It was the first time since he’s been gone that I literally longed for him to just give me a hug, a kiss on my forehead and tell me to breathe, because everything is going to be just fine. 

And I know it will be fine, because thirty minutes from now, it’s a whole new day. By the time you’re reading this, today will be history. 

*This is clearly a scheduled post. I wrote it last night to clear my head so I could sleep, because writing things out helps my mind relax.
**New Mexico doesn’t really have a flea problem and nobody told me about fleas in the South, so I didn’t know she should be on a flea preventative. Don’t worry, she’s on one now.
***Thank you for reading this far when there weren’t even any pictures to go along with it! In fact, you’re peach keen. You can get another entry by heading here and telling me I told you you’re a peach 🙂


  1. I don't know what flea preventative you got, but if nobody told you, she should also be on heartworm and tick prevention. Gotta love the Georgia bugs…

    And don't feel bad, my dogs have made me cry a time or two or seventeen too. Hope today is better!

  2. OMG [believe it, I just typed that!] Fiona too! We found a flea on her and think she got the AT THE VET! I can definitely sympathize with you and am so sorry you're by yourself. When my hubs deployed [only for a month for sea trials] our cat ate balloons and I had to take him to the emergency vet! They did nothing. It can always be more interesting.

    I hope you're better today!

  3. Wow, what a sucky day! I think you handled it like a champ. I had a similar day over Memorial Day weekend when my puppy got really sick. I just blogged about it a day or two ago, but I didnt include how all alone I felt when I had to leave her at the vet over night. She is my substitute snuggle buddy, and when she got sick, I was convinced she would die and I would be left to mourn her with no one to be around to keep me from pulling all my hair out and going completely insane. So I spent my night sobbing. Luckily, it was an extreme overreaction on my part and she was fine the next day. Nothing major has gone wrong since, thank God!!

  4. ((HUG)) I'm so sorry. I probably would have reacted the same way. It sounds to me like you're doing a great job 🙂
    P.S. How was USAA's roadside assistance? I cancelled AAA a month ago add the roadside to my USAA policy. I haven't had to use it yet (knock on wood) so I'm curious how it works.

  5. Hi! I'm new to your blog so I wanted to "introduce" myself.

    I'm so sorry this was a bad day. I know this is long gone now but I think it's totally okay that you stood there and cried. Sometimes when the stresses keep piling and piling, the best way to relieve the stress and frustration is to cry and let it out. There's nothing wrong in that. And even though these issues may seem small and trivial now, they were huge then and that's what matters. Glad you made it through this day!

    And I hope you don't mind if I pop over to your blog from time to time. 😉

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