I’m having a hard time sleeping tonight because I’m disgusted and deeply saddened by the way some of our fellow milspouses reacted to one of our own yesterday around the blogosphere. I will not post a link to the particular blog I’m speaking about or mention any names, because I think the author of the post has had enough dirty, harsh, and horrible words thrown at her, and she doesn’t need any more. (Edit: I wrote this last night and forgot to post it this morning, but since then the entire site in mention has been taken down except for her apology.)
Being a new wife is challenging, but when you marry a man in the military your life takes on an entire new meaning. Today I was ashamed and my heart was heavy as I watched fellow bloggers and friends bash a newlywed about to experience her first deployment.
“Loose lips sink ships.” We all know that catchy phrase, but I sincerely think some people take power into their own hands to determine when someone’s lips are a little too loose. The author of the blog made absolutely no mention of anything actually breaking OPSEC—she was simply blowing off steam and looking for a little encouragement and support from fellow milwives. Or maybe she was having one of those really crappy days and needed to vent.
But harsh judgment from readers overtook her post’s comments. Now before you start bashing me, I do think she could have used her words much more tactfully and she should have spent a little more time thinking about what she wanted to say, or she could have gone back to edit her post. OPSEC is something we all need to take extremely seriously, but I think there are better ways of approaching someone breaking OPSEC than being straight up mean.
The author quickly followed up with an apology post, to which I give her credit for not hiding and denying what she did was out of line. However, the comments to that post were just as foul and nasty.
When I married my airman five months ago I knew I was also marrying into an unbelievable support system. But yesterday that support system was shattered. She made a mistake and the last time I checked, we all make mistakes.
My hope is that she can find a support system to turn to that will help her get through this. In fact, I hope we all have an “offline” support system we can turn to in our times of need.
For those of you who read the posts and know what I’m talking about, what’s your take on the matter and who do you turn to for support?
(And if anyone has a problem with this post, send me an email—I will delete comments written without tact. This was post was in no way saying she was right, but rather seeing it from a different point of view.)